Kids are home for only one day, ONE day, and our second grader mentions he is bored. What??? What does this really mean when kids say they are bored? When kids say they are bored they are saying I don’t have a compelling sense of meaning in this moment. They have no strong sense of purpose. They are really lacking a sense of drive, direction, and passion.
Yes, kids need to feel some boredom and a sense of nothing to do but, but, but, as parents we need to help them structure summer. It will leave kids very dissatisfied and out of sorts if we don’t brainstorm how to structure summer purpose alongside them. They are still so young and this is teaching moments.
In the blog, We are THAT Family Kristen writes the article, Dear Children Let Me Explain to You This Thing Called Summer
In this week’s Sound Insight radio show, Kari talks about how Kristen doesn’t take this “summer thing” far enough. The author associates all the summer free time with fun time. “I cannot make every day fun. It’s not my job to make every moment The Best of Your Life.” Tom and Kari discuss how parents can miss this great summer opportunity to use the space and free time to help form and teach kids about the power of leisure as they structure summer. And all the numerous ways parents help kids grow into greater beings and not just leave them frustrated in their boredom.
Also, Tom and Kari discuss the overwhelming craziness, or elements of chaos and disorder you should expect this summer until you have a spirit that brings structure and order. When “vacating” the daily structure of school, kids now have no structure since they are home from school. And teaching kids how to structure and give order to their leisure, is difficult and time consuming, but important work.
Leisure is this wonderful unstructured time that still has a purpose; chaos is unstructured time that leads no where and when not using their human capabilities towards a good end, there errupts a real sense of dissatisfaction. Don’t leave them in chaos.
Also in this radio show…after inviting 40 kids over to the house for their yearly, End of the School Year Party, Tom and Kari talk about the importance of teaching your kids to plan events. Socializing is one area of goals for their kids each summer as talked about in How to Keep Sunday Holy: Tom & Kari Curran. And they highlight how to empower kids to lead this event from beginning to end, even if it was only planned three days ahead of time.